One of the perks of celebrating a marriage is the receipt of gifts, love, and support. In our case, our family and friends are dispersed all over the world. As a result, we had two bridal showers and two wedding receptions. I had to get creative and very organized to keep track of all the gifts given because it is very important to us to show everyone our gratitude. Despite all my lists and organization we have been extremely busy and unable to send out thank you cards on time. I have personally thanked everyone for everything but it was very important for us to send the cards to show our appreciation.
Something that inevitably comes with the territory of marriage (or even a committed relationship) is having in laws. Family is very important to me so I wanted to make sure that my in laws knew that they gained a daughter rather than lost a son after the wedding. I have heard horror stories from friends of mine regarding their in laws so needless to say I was praying for the best. My parents do not speak English and Matthew is still learning Spanish which only means that they get along great! The language barrier has been nothing but smiles and hugs from the moment they met. It’s hilarious how peaceful things are when people have little they can say to each other.
I’m pretty good about what I eat. I make my grocery list based on all the different food groups to make sure that Matthew and I are eating well rounded meals. I make healthy desserts and hardly ever eat out. We do not even eat chocolate (I don’t like it). Yet, when it comes to drinking, I seem to just love juice- all sorts of juice. I’m sure that my consumption of juice throws all my other healthy habits out the window. Whether smoothies, capri suns, lemonades, Gatorade, etc- I love it! It’s so refreshing- especially in this hot Florida weather. Believe it or not my first word as a baby was “jugo” which means juice in Spanish. Unlike other kids who say “mama” or “papa”, I said “jugo.” I absolutely love juice. Everywhere I go, I seem to be looking for juice.
Looking back, it seems that I prepared minimally for the wedding when compared to the tremendous preparation I went through for the marriage. We had couples devotionals, I read books on marriage, pre-martial counseling, getting to know each other’s family, etc. I was doing my best to make sure that I was more focused on our life together than I was on the party planning. In fact, we had trips planned for months after the wedding before booking the honeymoon. It just shows that we were more concerned with the marriage than the wedding. Maybe I was like that because my parents are divorced or maybe it was a simple as my Type A personality. Regardless, I wanted to know that I was doing my best.
An interesting dynamic of going to school and working from home is deciding how to dress. We are both free to live our lives in pajamas and to be in our work out clothes before, during, and after exercise. We are free to be ourselves without anyone looking to judge or criticize us. It’s a great life! Our clothes are clean and nicely folded; we are definitely not slobs. We have never compromised our hygiene simply because there is no one here to notice. However, in our situation, what is the dress code when there is none?