In a country where women have many opportunities, sometimes marriage is portrayed as the anti-success in the media. It seems that once you get married, your sentence as a subservient person begins (this can go for either male or female). The media is not completely lying. Depending on who you marry, anything is possible. However, I would hope that people would take the time to get to know each other and their goals before marriage to avoid ugly surprises after the wedding. If you think I’m exaggerating go ask Kim Kardashian how that worked out for her.

Looking back, it seems that I prepared minimally for the wedding when compared to the tremendous preparation I went through for the marriage. We had couples devotionals, I read books on marriage, pre-martial counseling, getting to know each other’s family, etc. I was doing my best to make sure that I was more focused on our life together than I was on the party planning. In fact, we had trips planned for months after the wedding before booking the honeymoon. It just shows that we were more concerned with the marriage than the wedding. Maybe I was like that because my parents are divorced or maybe it was a simple as my Type A personality. Regardless, I wanted to know that I was doing my best.