We are well into January which leads me to assume that many of you have already set your new years resolutions. People have posted several types of resolutions on Facebook ranging from weight loss to career aspirations. Some people even posted that their weight loss goal was to help them get into a romantic relationship. I did not see anyone post any resolutions related to their current relationship (whether romantic or not). I should not be surprised yet I still find it troubling. Matthew and I took a wholistic approach to the new year and looked at areas of our life such as business, physical, spiritual, and of course, our relationship. We sat down and decided that we needed to date again.

Wow! I cannot believe it has been that long since my last blog post.  There has been so much going on in our lives that I was afraid to “jinx” any of it by talking about it online. On one hand, it fed into my silly superstitions but on the other hand, it kept our close friends and family around the world in the dark.  Either way I looked at it, it was time to write on the blog again. Now I am back and I am here to stay!

If I were to post a picture of every time my husband gave me flowers, I would look like a florist. He gives me flowers so often that people would think that I sell flowers for a living. I am not exaggerating. My husband is so thoughtful and so appreciative of everything that I do that he takes the time (without any prompting) and thanks me continuously. I thought a man like him did not exist. As much as I love flowers, it’s not the flowers that impress me. What impresses me the most is that there is nothing I could do often enough that would desensitize him to it. I could cook everyday forevermore and I would just keep getting the same reaction of gratitude from him.

Our generation has been told on television that 1/5 relationships starts online. I’m not sure how they define a relationship or what the success rate is for relationships started online. However, I do know that social media can have a tremendous impact on relationships. Social media allows people to present themselves in many ways both positive and negative. At first, I did not realize how social media could have an effect on a relationship until I started noticing what my friends who are in relationships were doing.

Ever seen anything that is too good to be true? Too easy to think it was worth it? We have and we are glad we stayed away from it. Matthew and I both had a chance to date people that would have gladly dated us and not wanted us to change a thing about ourselves. It would have been easy and it would have validated who we were at the time. But we knew ourselves better than anyone could ever know us. We knew that if we were to date people who were willing to settle for who we were then, we were settling on who we could be. At times, who you date is a reflection of what you think about yourself or what you think you can achieve.